The name is BJ. For 44 years i have known and accepted I was gay. There just didn't seem to be a second choice for me. When I was young I always thought that being Bi must be the worst possible place to be socially.To be constantly pulled in two directions must have cause a lot of self doubt and confusion. I learned a long the way that they're are even more complex of a issue than i thought.

As I matured i concluded that it really wasn't Bi people that had all the issues it was me. I didn't understand it so they didn't either. Over the years I came to the conclusion that all of us are inherently Bi. Some of us choose to keep our friendships only with women and have relationships with men. Some of  us choose to have relationships with women and sex with men. I have never had any sexual attraction for women at all. But I have had many deep friendships with men and women.

Who knows what genetic marker pushes us one way or the other through sexual orientation. The trick is learning to embrace it in what ever way our boat floats.